From iiiii@ix.netcom.com Adversarial or collaborative? It sounded profound at first, but after a while mulling this one over, it just sounds confusing....... At first glance it seems obvious: Of course "collaboration" is the advisable path. Consider the golden rule and all. But I never went into a strip club with a strategy or an agenda other then some fuzzy primordial desire to get closer to the good stuff. Just the very idea of a "winning strategy" seems insincere, regardless of how seemingly noble and kind a "collaborative" strategy would be. Adversarial? Perish the thought. Not even close. But in truth...... no plan...... an open book. The "good stuff" is as changeable as the weather, the choices for pleasure as diverse as a Chinese take-out menu. What is it? Something intangible..... the way she throws her hair over her shoulder, the turn of her ankle, the way she's quick to smile and laugh at just the right moment. The interminable darkness and depth of her eyes. You are susceptible to being swept off your feet. You are prepared for lift off. That's why your hormones told you to be there. You just want to feel that instantaneous rush, that tingling sensation of being transfixed. First impressions are so dramatic sometimes. You use your instincts to maximize your appreciation of the moment. Or maybe you don't and wish later on you had...... end dream, begin nightmare Suddenly you're face to face with a real bowser and don't have the heart to say "No, I won't buy you a drink." You're tired and acquiescent so you make the best of it. You tell some self-depracating stories, act kind of sinister, focus in on the other dancers in hopes of shaking your newfound drinking partner, and finally try to shock her into leaving by claiming your herpes is itching and please be so kind as to scratch it. She laughs. She finds you utterly charming. Next thing you know, its time to buy her another drink, and all the girls you want to "collaborate" with are talking to each other about how all customers are pathetic losers. Later on they'll go home and bemoan the decline of kindness. "Seven Dollars", the poker faced bar girl intones, as if to imply either that or your kneecaps.